How to Be a Yes (Wo)Man

February 17th, 2013

I really really like my routine and I have a difficult time straying from that. I like planning, being in control and sticking to my To-Do list. I am not so good with the impromptu. I have a difficult time being “flexible.”

Type-A much?

Now these characteristics are very valuable in keeping my very Type-B Husband on track, as well as keeping our house and tasks and life organized. However, being a stickler of {my own} rules can sometimes make me tightly wound and kinda seem like I have a stick up my ass.

So in an effort to become more flexible and easy going – a characteristic I really admire in people and one that often eludes me, I decided it was high time to kick my To-Do lists to the curb (aahhh, cue the anxiety!) So a couple months ago I told Merrick I was going to try to start saying “Yes” more often to things.

YES to staying up a little later (aahhh! I won’t get my 8.5 hours of sleep!)

YES to having impromptu guests over (aahhh! My house isn’t clean!)

YES to a random happy hour or dinner date (aahhh! I didn’t account for that in my meal planning!)

YES to new exercise classes (aahhh! I won’t know the choreography!)

YES to joining new groups, new activities, and new things (aahhh! I won’t know anyone or know what I’m doing!)

(I really sound like a JOY to be around, huh?)

Yet, despite that nagging, anxious voice in the back of my mind about all the things that could go WRONG by being a YES man, I have actually enjoyed my new adventures.

I realized getting <8.5 hours of sleep actually won’t kill me or disrupt my day. And impromptu time spent with friends is way better than my usual night in, plus they really don’t care how clean my house is. And the meal I was planning to make can always get pushed to tomorrow. And some of the new adventures have led to great new friendships, a new confidence and a greater overall satisfaction with life.

I can’t say that I’ve totally turned in my To-Do lists and Type-A mindset, but I have become more open to new experiences by being a YES man.

So here’s to saying YES and quieting the voice that tells us “No” or that we “can’t,” or that we’ll “fail.”

…And on that note, who wants to go bungee jumping with me? Ya gotta say yes…

2 Responses to “How to Be a Yes (Wo)Man”

  1. Jordan says:

    Ha! I think we’re the same person!

  2. I am jealous of your 8.5 hours of sleep. I am lucky to get more than 6.5. Good for you for stepping out of your comfort zone! I wish I had a little more type A in me. lol!

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